Every year is different from the previous one, it teaches us something every time in order to evolve as a human being. Last year, was indeed one of the toughest and turbulent years for me in a long time. I had my fair share of challenges in life, but last year was the ultimate test. I was faced with many challenging personalities, who tested my patience and emotional well being. In addition, it was also a year when I got sick frequently, I work with children so I was exposed to their illnesses. I had the flu, sinus infections, ear infections, strep throat, I was also borderline anemic. I am fine now, thank goodness. Also, I am going through a career change so I overworked myself a lot with my daily job and volunteering like crazy to gain experience in my new field.
In conclusion, I did not take care of myself and I didn’t do things for myself to alleviate the stress. I am the type of person that does a lot for others, I will put other peoples needs before my own. I realized how catastrophic that was for me! That’s why I made the decisions that 2017 will be a year about me. I will do things that make me happy, I will try something new that I’ve never done before and I will work on recognizing when I need to rest. It’s good to be ambitious, but I’m not super human and I have my limits. Overworking yourself can lead to poor sleeping patterns, poor eating such as overeating or not eating enough. In my case, I was overeating and eating mostly junk food because when I’m stressed or tired I like to eat a lot. Caring for others is something I will always do, but there has to be a balance. This year I want create that balance, because we all need to tend to our own needs. There is negative notion attached to caring about yourself too much, some may say it’s selfish. The selfishness is present when you hurt others with your behavior and completely disregard them. It is when you do not care about how you affect others with your behavior and become completely unemphatic to other people’s feelings. That’s when you are selfish.
Tending to your own needs, and doing more of what makes you happy is not. It is a life necessity. When you are happy and do things that make you happy, then people around you will be influenced from your positive energy. Who doesn’t want to see their friends or family members be happy, instead of being miserable.
You may ask me, how am I making this year about me? Well, I will tell you and I hope I can inspire you to do the same if you feel like you’re stuck in a rut.
1.Start dance classes.
I love to dance and I’ve always wanted to dance on stage, I’m not aiming to be famous but I want to perform with my local dance studio. Last month I joined DanceLife X studio in Toronto and it was so much fun.
2. Begin Acting Again.
Growing up I had a passion for musical theater, but when immigrated to Canada I pushed that goal aside because my family was adjusting to a new country. See this is where the “putting other peoples needs, before mine” comes into play. However, I believe everything happens for a reason and back then it probably wasn’t the right time to pursue this path. Now, I am part of play that’s held monthly at the Sick Kids hospital and eventually, I want to find an agent and do commercial work.
3. Live Abroad.
I have always wanted to live in Japan, this time I am actively looking into the opportunity to make this big move. If it happens, I plan to stay there for only a year and then return to Canada. I’ve heard from many people that living abroad is life changing and right now I need a life changing experience.
4. Learn To Say No.
There are times when I don’t want to do something, for example if I want to relax all weekend watching Netflix in bed, then that’s exactly what I’ll do. In the past, if someone were to ask to go somewhere I would have to put aside what I want and go out. I am very social, however, there have been times I have gone out when I was sick because I felt bad for cancelling plans. So this year, if I feel uncomfortable about something, or I don’t want to go somewhere I will say no.
5. Distance Myself from Negative People.
Misery likes a little company, I think that’s what the saying was. Sometimes there are negative people who make you feel bad about yourself, or they pass on their negative energy onto you. No one is a garbage bin for anyone’s negativity, you deserve happiness and calmness in your life. I work with people who are negative, I have acquaintances who are negative so I have decided to distance myself from them completely. Remember who have to kind to yourself!
6. Be Healthier.
I want to focus on eating healthier food, exercising more and get back to doing yoga. Having good health is a big part of your well being, so it is important to get daily exercise and to eat better food.
With that being said, I want to hear do any of you have any personal goals for yourself this year and is there anything you would like to change or do better?
I look forward to reading your comments 🙂
Thanks again for reading and see you soon!